It’s completely natural to feel apprehensive about sharing news of an unexpected pregnancy, especially when you’re unsure how your partner will react. This situation carries a lot of emotional weight, and it’s important to approach it with care and thoughtfulness.

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Continue reading to find out what you can do to alleviate your anxiety about sharing the news with your partner.

Reflect On Your Feelings & Your Partner

Take a moment to process your own feelings. It’s essential to understand your emotions and desires before involving your partner. Are you feeling scared, concerned, anxious, or a mix of everything? Knowing where you stand will help you communicate more clearly.

Next, consider your partner’s perspective. How have they responded to stressful or unexpected news in the past? This might give you some insight into how they might react. However, remember that this situation is unique and deeply personal for both of you.

Be prepared for a range of emotions from your partner. They may have fears and concerns of their own. You want to avoid assigning blame or making assumptions about their initial response. Instead, focus on what you can control: starting open communication and mutual support.

How To Setup The Conversation

When you’re ready to talk, choose a time and place where you can have an uninterrupted and calm conversation. Privacy is key. Start by expressing your feelings honestly and openly. You might say something like, “I have something important to share, and I’m feeling really nervous about it.” This sets the stage for a sincere dialogue.

Share the news gently and give your partner time to process it. Their initial reaction might be shock, confusion, or even silence, and that’s okay. People often need time to digest significant news before they can respond constructively.

Discuss your options together. Whether you’re considering parenting, adoption, or abortion, it can be a net positive to explore these choices as a team. Remember that this is ultimately your decision, but this can help both of you feel more in control and connected during this uncertain time.

Find Support

Finally, if things don’t go as planned, seek support outside of your relationship if needed. Talking to a trusted friend or family member can provide additional perspectives and emotional support.

You are not alone, you can find support with us at A Hope Center. We’re here for you, and we can help you go through your options, as well as access an array of no-cost pregnancy services to guide you along the way. 

Make a no-cost and confidential appointment today. 

*A Hope Center does not provide or refer for abortions.