You might have seen fun ways to break your pregnancy news on TikTok or Instagram. However, that doesn’t fit your situation. Maybe it’s an unplanned pregnancy, and you’re unsure how your boyfriend or family will react.

How do you tell them? Here are a few tips.

1. Evaluate Your Safety

Reactions to life-altering news are unpredictable. Some are better than you hoped, while others can be worse. Think about each person you plan to tell about your pregnancy. How do you think they will respond? 

Suppose your parents or boyfriend have a temper or a history of domestic abuse. In that case, you will want to create a plan that protects your safety. Maybe consider telling them in a public setting, with a supportive friend, or even over the phone.

If you feel safe, move on to tip #2.

2. Tell Your Family and Boyfriend Separately

It can be wise to tell your family and boyfriend the news separately. If your family isn’t your boyfriend’s biggest fan, this will prevent them from acting out against him and help maintain some peace during that moment.

Even if your family likes your boyfriend and has a good relationship, telling them each separately will create a more comfortable dynamic for both groups.

3. Choose the Time and Place

The time and place will make a difference in how your boyfriend or family receives your news. Choose a place where they would feel most comfortable. For your family, the ideal setting could be the living room after dinner. That way, you eliminate hunger, thirst, work schedules, or any rush to go anywhere.

Maybe you and your boyfriend have a place where you talk best. It could be on a park bench or in the car on your way to the drive-through line.

Be strategic. Where will they be most relaxed and receptive?

4. Embrace Flexibility 

Even if you have a plan and you’re about to share, it’s okay to change your mind and wait if the overall attitude feels tense or you sense irritation. While there will never be a perfect situation, using your gut can help you determine the right time.

Flexibility will help you pick the optimal time and not force it when a serious conversation might not be welcome.

5. Deep Breaths. You’ve Got This! 

You don’t have to have all the answers right now or even know the next step. But you are strong, and you’ve got this. You can do it.

Please know we are here to help you and available if you want to talk through your plan to break the news or your pregnancy options. Schedule an appointment today for no-cost, confidential pregnancy support and early pregnancy confirmation services.

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